To say that love is complicated is an understatement. Anyone who has felt their heart flutter at the mere thought of someone special knows that love often comes with as much baggage as it does bliss. Whether your in a relationship or still navigating the dating scene, you’ve likely wished, at some point, that there was a way to streamline falling in love. To take out the miscommunications and needless fights. While there isn’t a love potion that will speed up the art of falling in love (yet!), there is a series of 36 questions that have been scientifically proven to help you fall in love with even a stranger.
These questions, created by psychologist Dr. Arthur Aron, was tested by Mandy Len Catron in the New York Times. At the end of her article, the author revealed that she and the man who she tried the questions with really did fall in love. “Although it’s hard to credit the study entirely (it may have happened anyway), the study did give us a way into a relationship that feels deliberate,” she said. “We spent weeks in the intimate space we created that night, waiting to see what it could become.”
While it would definitely be a bit strange to whip out these 36 questions on a first Tinder date, it may benefit those who are currently in relationships. Take any guesswork out of your partnership by learning things about each other you may not have known otherwise. The questions in the survey go from gathering information of surface-level importance, such as “Would you like to be famous?”, to much deeper and telling things, such as “If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone?”
Get your loved one, whether he or she be your significant other of several years, or just a few months, and see how much you can learn from each other in 36 questions. We’ve provided the questions below.
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?